we’re not saying he’s not being insensitive — he is — but, at this point, the only healthy/appropriate reaction is to ignore him and continue acting like the hot, single woman you are.. then he said “part of me feels bad because i do really respect you and think you’re a good person” ok so it’s clear then that you’re not looking for anything more than a hook up? also, trust your gut instinct, if you think he is trying to avoid you , then why would you want to be in a relationship with someone like that? and in order to find it, you sometimes have to swallow your pride, put yourself out there, and take some scary risks. when it felt like you were looking for more, i got nervous because that's not how i saw our relationship. if he likes you, i don’t think that’s too much demand. why did you choose to ignore me rather than tell me how you felt? it’s one sided and he’ll get fed up and go find someone who shows she wants to be with him, hang out with him, hook up with him, likes his company, and is an active participant. if he’s not, you’re not gonna make him commit by having sex and then stressing out and trying not to act clingy, although that would be natural for you. if you want to be his girlfriend and not just a girl he hooks up with, continue focusing on your life, behaving like a girl who respects herself, being cool and doing you. you want to spout off angry messages about how you hate men, how men are scum, how you’re giving up on relationships, how women are victims, etc. but it’s tough to realize you like them after that, when you didn’t think you “cared”.. then i told him i wanna hook up again he writes me n says i like u a lot as a friend but i don’t want to continue our relationship romantically u didn’t do anything wrong in just in a place where j want a gf or friends with benefits or anything like that. trust me while you are waiting on him he’s talking to another woman who thinks like me. do you think men in an affair with a woman automatically loses respect for the woman and withdraws? i'm fairly prudish about sex i guess—i haven't slept with anyone since you, not even a kiss. you cannot change him and nothing you say or do is going to change him. first, keep in mind that if your mindset is needy towards the guy or relationship, the amount of time that’s passed won’t really matter. you have a choice — there might be other factors that make it a difficult choice, but it’s still a choice. are getting married less and less — and the reason why might shock you., but you say it was his frequency & perhaps tone of his calls/texts that turned you off. your articles have given me so e things to think about and bring into my life to create a more meaningful life for myself instead a guy. your anger at whoever blew you off after you slept with them is showing. could have chosen to teach her to try and find someone decent but you didn’t.
if you continue not exercising restraint, you’ll just make it impossible for him to miss you and feel appreciation for you. probably thinks he’s giving more than you are and is pulling back and pretty soon he will feel hurt and frustrated that you turned out to be a complete waste of time. you need to see yourself as the proverbial goddess on earth, a spectacle to behold… a woman that has that certain “extra something” that makes you rare and unlike the rest. you and only you are accountable for the quality of your relationships – the quality of your interactions with other people.. i agree honesty is the best policy… you should at least have the balls to tell someone how you feel afterwards. people you query on net forums only get your side of things, and clearly you’ve lost your objectivity the second you hit the send key anyway, and nobody can read the mind of whatever guy you’re referring to. so when you go around acting like sex with you isnt a big deal and you can do it just as much and just like any man, then you become like a man to him. even if you don’t reach out to him, he’ll think that too. if him texting and calling on a regular basis is important to you then you should stop dealing with a guy who feels its not. and don’t try to let any man tell you you are wrong for being who you are! we'd been friends a while and you seemed open to "hooking up" and i thought, well, if she thinks this is chill then i guess i can be chill too. the relationship is the state of your interactions between one another…and if that sucks, the problem lies with you. it’s your health right and you care about your health right? up is all i can say, no one is obligated to take you as you are, if who you are isn’t worth taking, and the only kind of men you’ll get are losers who’re just as desperate as you. i want closure, so should i just text him and tell him “you don’t need to be polite and text me, i’m a big girl, sometimes things work out, sometime it doesn’t but we had fun while it lasted. he just comes up to me when sometimes i’m just laying in bed and he just comes up to me and says, “do you want some?’s the bottom line: this is your quality of life. because you take it personally and rarely get any kind of closure. plus we got an uphill battle because men are programmed to look for those signs, and programmed to believe that women will want a relationship, which they don’t mind until they sleep with the woman. so he texted you first, you had a nice back and forth, and now it’s the next day. if you want a shot at being his girlfriend — and we honestly hope you don’t because this guy sounds like a d*ck — you should ignore his texts and move on. of all the sex with all the women out there they could be having – do you really think it’s just about sex for a man to make his choice? your choice is to stay with this guy and accept this is how he is, who he is, and enjoy a lacking in quality sex life, or break things off and raise your own bar.” and also asked me, “do you still have my number?
point here is that if you want to win with this guy (or men in general), you have to view yourself as a prize to be won as a whole. sometimes you need to find out a way to spend your time that actually makes you happy (a team at a local rec center or whatever is your cup of tea) instead of literally wasting looking for problems in your relationship. his daughter wasn’t feeling good that day and i said i understand that he has a lot going on and that i will be here if you ever needed anything. example would indicate he doesn’t care all that much (if at all)… but it has nothing to do with what i was saying in the context of the article or even the snippet you pasted in. set your happiness as the goal and you’ll find the person you’re looking for. the couple posts on here i’ve read so far are right on. on the flip side, if there was a woman that was in a relationship/marriage and she was the one who cheated (and then the guy withdrew after that)… i don’t know… i still don’t think it would be because he lost respect… it might be more about him not wanting to get mixed up into drama if her husband/boyfriend finds out. it be… give them space to be human… everyone (including you and me) needs to sort out their internal world… nobody can do it for someone else. he calls on sunday, i didn’t pick up because i was enjoying my weekend, and do not make time for rude men who insist on getting laid and then don’t call back.! i’m running circles around your advice, but you aren’t fully making it capable for us women to solve our issues. guys don’t care about that if they like you they will be happy to hear. me sum up your article for you and for the poor desperate humiliated women that read this web-site : if you would have been more arttractive he would have not had to lie to get sex. you can’t be expected to change for anyone else, you can’t be expected to take responsibility for how men will react to you, that’s all men’s obligation to you right? as a woman, you can love sex and have it as soon as you want and as much as you want and that is attractive in some sense because its freeing. i met a guy at a young age and grew to just crush on him. i met this guy back in august after 6 months of me breaking up with my boy friend of 12 years at that point i wasn’t looking for no one but the guy seemed different so i went on to talk to him from time to time and every time i talk to him he seemed to be very interested in me that made me interested in him so after a while i wanted sex so we was about to twice the first time i was ready he wasn’t what he did was drop a bomb on me to say he has a girl friend and was 22 he didn’t want to do it because she read our text ok so i was disinterested at this point but still wanted it ok so time went on he begain too reach out again me just still liking him i play hard to get again then after that i was done i just didn’t want to waste no more time with him so a little time past he reached out again so i went to see him and we had sex for 5 min i was upset but then i was like too my self that’s just what i get… for being stupid so i talked o him twice after that the first time was to say that i want a retry the second time was to make sure he was all on board so the day came i call and text his phone no answer so i left a long text to him about how he was some shit and he is a little boy later i felt stupid and instead of apologizing i told him merry xmas of course he didn’t respond but for some reason in way i still want it what should i do. reasons you’re single even though you’re a catch. before the sex fail, he was all “i love you so much. from a girls point of view, we become very attached and want to be held comforted assured after we have opened up emotionally to a guy. after some time had passed, i remember you sending me a very straightforward text, and i told you how i really respected the directness of the message but wasn't interested. it’s natural to get excited about a prospect but always keep in mind that if this doesn’t work out there’s plenty of other options out there for you. you’re trying too hard to keep from being seen as clingy to the point he’s the only one in the relationship. i mean just because a woman talks about her relationship with her boyfriend, it doesn’t mean she’s needy and desperate, it just means she wants him to be a keeper and step up and be a mature man. don’t understand how you can be open like this and not be worried about std s and hiv, how do you not worry if the guys messing with others?
, well you can get to know him if he is lying and deceitful ?, i dislike most of eric charles’advice because it always tells the woman what she is doing wrong… the right man will like you flaws and all… and if you can find a single man in today’s society who is not a egocentric dolt or narcissist stuck in cave man days, god bless you! on the mark when you said girls shouldn’t look at sex as their only asset. being that you can’t control it or resolve it for him… let it be and get good at accepting him for being human. easy rule of thumb all women should follow is that before a guy is a male, he’s first a human, same as you.’m telling you… and i’m seriously doing my best to be compassionate here… do yourself a favor and cut the cycle… you might not realize how much feeding into negativity drives people away… it seeps into your pores and becomes like an aura around you that repels people…. i hooked up with someone—this time, it was an adult skateboarder—who repeatedly told me he wanted to see me again. your world won’t end if you kick this one to the curb and look for better options. you ever felt a gut instinct or picked up on someone’s energy?’s us women get caught up in the fairy tales. a guy isn’t all that into you, but knows you’ll give it up on date #3, he’ll stick around long enough to get some booty then leave. i've been on countless subpar first dates where neither one of us chose to follow-up. what is it inside you that’s compelling you to feed off of negativity?. he won’t marry you because he’s probably married to someone else. that guy is not for you because you don`t want the same.. and only on this quest does he delve in to the emotional side of his brain to even conjure up the bonding feelings., i understand being angry… but i’m trying to show you that if you can let go of all that and just find happiness in your own life… you will cut a very toxic cycle. so you could be looking at him all starry eyed because you’ve got endorphins, but he’s seeing you looking all starry eyed because now you’re in love with him and want to have 10,000 of his babies. you don’t seek a man to “make you happy” or “make you feel secure”, then you will magnetize people to you (instead of repel them). you didn't feel like you owed me some kind of response? if the girl you are desperately in love with, doesn’t want you, time for you to go away. i’m not sure if its the right site to post this but the love of my life broke up with me 3 months ago. you can’t expect anything in return for having sex with a guy. so, you make up some lame excuse to reach out, craft a text that you (naively) think doesn’t reveal the fact that you’ve been thinking about him every waking second, and hit send.
“:it makes me upset and needy and probably does make him run off, which is somewhat understandable” no. you will only attract the shady ones, as healthy men can sense it and will run away. she sent the signal that all it took for him to get the sex was saying “be my girlfriend” or “i love you”. recently have been hanging out with a guy who has been trying to hook up with me. more amazing you are, the harder it is to find love. if you haven't been ghosted, you either have some sort of freakishly impeccable dating life and i hate you, or you have no dating life at all and i pity you. find your website really useful and helping me understand love and relationship better. hurts so much for same one you love the most but never mind i’m also in bad stuff. women should be happy about men want to have sex with them, because it tell them they are attractive to men, but it’s up to women’s decision to make the choices. kind of comment always gives me a sense that the commenter is a child, refusing to take responsibility for herself, oh no of course you should never change and become a better person, the entire world should bend over to meet all your needs, being in charge and doing all the work is men’s business right? if he’s not into you, he won’t, in which case you should focus your attention elsewhere. yes we all fall into certain pitfalls, not everybody wants to cuddle after coupling, even with the perfect mate. your sentence *should* read: “the relationship is the state of your interactions between one another…and if that sucks, the problem lies with you or the other person or both of you. also assumes she’s going to act needy because she’s the woman “if he’s picking up neediness, from you then the damage was already done. he is my best friend and i ended up and still am his rebound girl. about it – do you honestly think that men choose a woman for their one exclusive relationship just for sex? all you accomplish is showing him that you’re obsessing about him and that makes you way less attractive, turning you into a hookup option instead of someone he sees as a girlfriend. slept with a guy i work with i luke him alot but now he acts like he dont know me at work and always walks out with another woman …we had sex a few times…what happen i would like to date him but i don’t know what to say or do…i messed up by sleeping with him to quick…what should i do. it doesn’t matter you act needy or not, he just simply doesn’t care anymore. overall, but if you’ve read through some of these questions, you’ll see that women are going about things all wrong, assigning some sort of intrinsic value to their vaginas to use as a negotiation tool to snare a guy on a longer term basis, or being all around psycho neurotic – vandalizing some guy’s property because she can’t make him love her, or invading his privacy because she’s an insecure, paranoid idiot, or playing head games. your own good, ask yourself this question, “if a man wrote that women made him sick… that he hopes that she gets an std… that he’s sick of women and that women are all evil abusers… would you want anything to do with that guy? if you only want sex, get a prostitute or even better, jerk off. then, he says, “i’d really like to see you again. now, why is knowing what you want equated with neediness?